The thought isn’t the problem. The isolation around it is. And the shame spiral around the thought — that’s where we get stuck. “I shouldn’t feel this way.” “There’s something wrong with me.” “I can’t tell anyone I think this.” Humans are wired to escape discomfort. When something hurts, we fantasize about removing the source: a job, a relationship, a responsibility. So yes — sometimes the brain points that ESCAPE instinct at life itself. That’s not a moral failure. It’s an exhausted nervous sys